我不会
我不想
我不会再这样
我不要
我很痛
我很烦
我很累
我很烦
我很怕
我在哭
我在想
我在等
我................该怎麽办好？
爱可以很甜也可以很伤
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Saturday, September 26, 2009
How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work
It's hard enough to make local relationships work, but having miles, States, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. Here's how to give yours every chance to survive and thrive.
Steps
1. Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged)as well defining exclusive(limited to one person,) non exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: "Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should it become more serious?" or "What are you looking to get out of the relationship?". Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.
2. Do things together. Defy the distance. As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important. Just think... people in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously. For an extensive list of more things you can do with each other (or for each other)
3. Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Remember that e-mail and even instant messengers can increase the possibility of misunderstandings. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don't take communication for granted!
4. Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.
5. Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.
6. Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match - or someone else is a better match - your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work.
7. Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.
8. Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you'll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. You have to remember that for a healthy relationship, no matter how far or close, you must be willing to let go.
9. Remember: things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.
10. Visit often Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone calls. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them, consistency can help a LDR survive.
11. Avoid jealousy and be trusting One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worth of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a LDR, you lives won't pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves.
12. Be positive Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a LDR is essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives. Another positive points it that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, communicate better since you don't have "face-to-face" time and test your feelings. As long as you see the long distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too.
Steps
1. Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged)as well defining exclusive(limited to one person,) non exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: "Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should it become more serious?" or "What are you looking to get out of the relationship?". Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.
2. Do things together. Defy the distance. As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important. Just think... people in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously. For an extensive list of more things you can do with each other (or for each other)
3. Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Remember that e-mail and even instant messengers can increase the possibility of misunderstandings. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don't take communication for granted!
4. Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.
5. Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.
6. Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match - or someone else is a better match - your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work.
7. Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.
8. Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you'll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. You have to remember that for a healthy relationship, no matter how far or close, you must be willing to let go.
9. Remember: things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.
10. Visit often Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone calls. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them, consistency can help a LDR survive.
11. Avoid jealousy and be trusting One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worth of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a LDR, you lives won't pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves.
12. Be positive Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a LDR is essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives. Another positive points it that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, communicate better since you don't have "face-to-face" time and test your feelings. As long as you see the long distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too.
Cabin Crew 机舱服务员
最近Polar寄了很多照片给我看，
让我好羡慕又妒忌他的工作...
我知道自己进不了这一行了%>_<%
他们身着精致和时尚的制服，拉着小巧的行李箱，领着高薪，
然后坐着最先进的交通工具穿梭于地球村的各个点之间..
我的愿望啊 ！！！我也要免费环游世界 ...
Wong Hock Toong
你是我们霹雳州人的骄傲...朋友好好干下去哦 O(∩_∩)O
让我好羡慕又妒忌他的工作...
我知道自己进不了这一行了%>_<%
他们身着精致和时尚的制服，拉着小巧的行李箱，领着高薪，
然后坐着最先进的交通工具穿梭于地球村的各个点之间..
我的愿望啊 ！！！我也要免费环游世界 ...
Wong Hock Toong
你是我们霹雳州人的骄傲...朋友好好干下去哦 O(∩_∩)O
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Beautiful LoVe
看住时间
别让它在再流浪
从前我太适应悲伤
你的出现在无意中
却深深撼动我
一起走着没说什么
心是满足的
这个世界
随时都要崩塌
我没有其它的愿望
假如明天将消失了
趁现在我爱着
只想记得,被你抱着
温热的感受
Love's beautiful
so beautiful
我失去过
更珍惜拥有
多庆幸我是我
被你疼爱的我
紧紧牵住的手
不要放手
永远守护我
Love's beautiful
so beautiful
我很快乐
你会了解我
我不会再哭泣
是因为我相信
我们勇敢的爱着
每秒钟
都能证明一生的美丽
这个世界
随时都要崩塌
我没有其它的愿望
假如明天将消失了
趁现在我爱着
只想记得,被你抱着
温热的感受
Love's beautiful
so beautiful
我失去过
更珍惜拥有
多庆幸我是我
被你疼爱的我
紧紧牵住的手
不要放手
永远守护我
OH~~~~
Love's beautiful
so beautiful
我失去过
更珍惜拥有
多庆幸我是我
被你疼爱的我
紧紧牵住的手
不要放手
永远守护我
Love's beautiful
so beautiful
我很快乐
你会了解我
我不会再哭泣
是因为我相信
我们勇敢的爱着
每秒钟
都能证明一生的美丽
Love's beautiful
so beautiful
开始忙了
从今天开始他会比以前更忙了，
排满的课表和活动还有工读，
很少休息的时间，
多余的时间只好利用来复习功课，
所以我们不可以再像以前那样每晚都谈通宵了，
我也要开始去习惯这种生活，
减少MSN的时间...
我会有点担心少了谈话我们的关系会变淡吗？
我有点对自己很没有信心，
可是我不能担心太多这只会增加他的压力，
我须要更体谅他让他有更多的空间去做他要做的事情，
我必须为自己的生活安排多点节目和学业上好让自己的生活过的更充实.
我会有耐心等待那一天的到来 ❤❤❤
~You're always in My Mind~
排满的课表和活动还有工读，
很少休息的时间，
多余的时间只好利用来复习功课，
所以我们不可以再像以前那样每晚都谈通宵了，
我也要开始去习惯这种生活，
减少MSN的时间...
我会有点担心少了谈话我们的关系会变淡吗？
我有点对自己很没有信心，
可是我不能担心太多这只会增加他的压力，
我须要更体谅他让他有更多的空间去做他要做的事情，
我必须为自己的生活安排多点节目和学业上好让自己的生活过的更充实.
我会有耐心等待那一天的到来 ❤❤❤
~You're always in My Mind~
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
哭了
我今天真的忍不住哭了出来 %>_<%
因为我答应过他不会再哭可是我真的办不到控制不了，
眼泪不停的流了出来...为什么现在的我会变得如此容易就掉眼泪呢？
以前的我都很少会去理会男朋友的一举一动，他要怎样就怎样...
为何现在的我变得如此小女人呢？很爱管很爱理了.
这一次我可能爱太深了很重视这段感情
所有他说的每句话我都会牢牢记住，
就算内心很不愿意很不希望只要他开心我都会支持他❤
我只希望自己喜欢的人每天都活的开开心心 ╮(╯▽╰)╭
我们快两个星期没见面了感觉过了很久很久...我还需要等多两年，
时间赶快过去吧！期待2011年的到来.
我真的很期待你回来我身边不再让你离开我,
我要和你一起生活...
真的很想念你 ❤❤❤
因为我答应过他不会再哭可是我真的办不到控制不了，
眼泪不停的流了出来...为什么现在的我会变得如此容易就掉眼泪呢？
以前的我都很少会去理会男朋友的一举一动，他要怎样就怎样...
为何现在的我变得如此小女人呢？很爱管很爱理了.
这一次我可能爱太深了很重视这段感情
所有他说的每句话我都会牢牢记住，
就算内心很不愿意很不希望只要他开心我都会支持他❤
我只希望自己喜欢的人每天都活的开开心心 ╮(╯▽╰)╭
我们快两个星期没见面了感觉过了很久很久...我还需要等多两年，
时间赶快过去吧！期待2011年的到来.
我真的很期待你回来我身边不再让你离开我,
我要和你一起生活...
真的很想念你 ❤❤❤
Monday, September 21, 2009
前途迷惘
最近真的很烦工作，寄了无数的副历等了好久都没有答复真的感到有点难过.
那是因为我的要求太高还是因为我还是个业余的学生所以别人不肯并请我呢？
真的真的很烦啊！很久都没有试过那么的烦恼了.
可能之前工作都比较稳定吧！
每个月都会准时发薪所以不会感觉到问题的存在.
以前还不觉得赚钱难或辛苦，
现在真的深深体会到那滋味了...真的很难熬.
我知道我不可能那么容易就失业的只是我很不满意那份薪水，
在这里快三年了还拿着那么低的薪水我真的很不甘心，
这根本不是我要过的生活...我的字典里是时间等于金钱.
我现在把时间投资在没有回报的地方了.
真的很秃废的在过日子，
上网的时间比工作还长上网太多也会很累很闷...
今年暂时要和奢侈品告一段落了希望明年可以在补偿回.
因为现在有更重要更有意义的事等我去做...
我会选择买机票去台见我想念的人.
那是因为我的要求太高还是因为我还是个业余的学生所以别人不肯并请我呢？
真的真的很烦啊！很久都没有试过那么的烦恼了.
可能之前工作都比较稳定吧！
每个月都会准时发薪所以不会感觉到问题的存在.
以前还不觉得赚钱难或辛苦，
现在真的深深体会到那滋味了...真的很难熬.
我知道我不可能那么容易就失业的只是我很不满意那份薪水，
在这里快三年了还拿着那么低的薪水我真的很不甘心，
这根本不是我要过的生活...我的字典里是时间等于金钱.
我现在把时间投资在没有回报的地方了.
真的很秃废的在过日子，
上网的时间比工作还长上网太多也会很累很闷...
今年暂时要和奢侈品告一段落了希望明年可以在补偿回.
因为现在有更重要更有意义的事等我去做...
我会选择买机票去台见我想念的人.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
我
从我来到这世界上的第一天妈妈在我身边只有
一个月直到满月的那一天，
可是满月后妈妈就把我给保母看顾直到我六岁那年把我抛去外公家给舅母带，
九岁时再抛我去阿姨家住过着不是人过的日子，
一天只吃一餐饭的日子睡的只能睡客厅的日子
还要对着一个禽兽不如的亲戚.
我真的很讨厌以前的生活...不知什么是家庭温暖?什么是爱？
因为没有人疼过我，妈妈给的只是钱她不知道我的痛苦.
在学校在家里都被人取笑我是从石头爆出来的因为我没有老爸，
每天晚上抱着枕头哭为什么上天对我那么不公平，
我就像个野孩子像个人球常常被大人踢来踢去...
我这辈子都不会原谅你们，我会记住你们怎样对我.
为何我的童年是如此不开心，
小时候很想快快长大赶快离开那鬼地方不要再见到那些坏人，
我对自己说过只要我会赚钱了，我的生活一定要比你们好.
我一定会很争气给你们看...
一个月直到满月的那一天，
可是满月后妈妈就把我给保母看顾直到我六岁那年把我抛去外公家给舅母带，
九岁时再抛我去阿姨家住过着不是人过的日子，
一天只吃一餐饭的日子睡的只能睡客厅的日子
还要对着一个禽兽不如的亲戚.
我真的很讨厌以前的生活...不知什么是家庭温暖?什么是爱？
因为没有人疼过我，妈妈给的只是钱她不知道我的痛苦.
在学校在家里都被人取笑我是从石头爆出来的因为我没有老爸，
每天晚上抱着枕头哭为什么上天对我那么不公平，
我就像个野孩子像个人球常常被大人踢来踢去...
我这辈子都不会原谅你们，我会记住你们怎样对我.
为何我的童年是如此不开心，
小时候很想快快长大赶快离开那鬼地方不要再见到那些坏人，
我对自己说过只要我会赚钱了，我的生活一定要比你们好.
我一定会很争气给你们看...
Monday, September 7, 2009
第一次发生车祸 1.12AM 07-09-09
今天在回来新加坡的途中大概凌晨1点钟左右地点是马六甲的高速公路发生了车祸.
当时的我都已经熟睡了,突然听到有人在大声叫和很强大的撞击了把所有的乘客都吓醒了有些人也受了点轻伤.
眼前的巴士车镜子都碎了,那种画面和心情真的把我给吓坏...
我第一时间打电话给DearDear我真的不知所措也不知该怎麽办还有我的腿也轻微撞伤了.
然后所有的人都下车,巴士司机帮乘客们接停来返新加坡的长途巴士将我们安排回新加坡.
到现在我都不知道为何巴士会失控撞上前面的卡车也不懂司机伤势如何.
这次的意外造成了我对搭巴士很大的影阴换了巴士后都不能再入眠了.
凌晨4点半平安到达新加坡,回家后才睡两个小时就赶去上班了,
现在的我感觉超疲倦和昏昏欲睡 ...zzZZZZ
当时的我都已经熟睡了,突然听到有人在大声叫和很强大的撞击了把所有的乘客都吓醒了有些人也受了点轻伤.
眼前的巴士车镜子都碎了,那种画面和心情真的把我给吓坏...
我第一时间打电话给DearDear我真的不知所措也不知该怎麽办还有我的腿也轻微撞伤了.
然后所有的人都下车,巴士司机帮乘客们接停来返新加坡的长途巴士将我们安排回新加坡.
到现在我都不知道为何巴士会失控撞上前面的卡车也不懂司机伤势如何.
这次的意外造成了我对搭巴士很大的影阴换了巴士后都不能再入眠了.
凌晨4点半平安到达新加坡,回家后才睡两个小时就赶去上班了,
现在的我感觉超疲倦和昏昏欲睡 ...zzZZZZ
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